This question alone reveals the paradox of being a player. Despite all the knowledge we can store, all the techniques that can be practiced, and all the experience that can be acquired, we still find ourselves faced with uncertainty at one time or another. That uncertainty can be found in one question, that same question that keeps coming up: does she like me?
Behind this simple thought lie issues of personal worth and vulnerability. How do we know that? Because we never think along these lines unless we’re thinking about this girl as a potential partner, someone who’s got everything we’re looking for – physically, emotionally, and intellectually.
Starting from the moment when sentimentality kicks in, when you open yourself up to emotional intimacy, it becomes increasingly difficult to see clearly and be confident about the signals she’s sending.
In short, when we’re growing closer to a girl we really like, it’s easy to lose touch with reality and to lose confidence, undoubtedly because a rejection at this point would be devastating.
This all results in many men trying to follow their partner’s lead, not letting themselves reveal their true selves for fear of disappointment, judgment, or rejection.