This question alone reveals the paradox of being a player. Despite all the knowledge we can store, all the techniques that can be practiced, and all the experience that can be acquired, we still find ourselves faced with uncertainty at one time or another. That uncertainty can be found in one question, that same question that keeps coming up: does she like me?
Behind this simple thought lie issues of personal worth and vulnerability. How do we know that? Because we never think along these lines unless we’re thinking about this girl as a potential partner, someone who’s got everything we’re looking for – physically, emotionally, and intellectually.
Starting from the moment when sentimentality kicks in, when you open yourself up to emotional intimacy, it becomes increasingly difficult to see clearly and be confident about the signals she’s sending.
In short, when we’re growing closer to a girl we really like, it’s easy to lose touch with reality and to lose confidence, undoubtedly because a rejection at this point would be devastating.
This all results in many men trying to follow their partner’s lead, not letting themselves reveal their true selves for fear of disappointment, judgment, or rejection.
So a vicious cycle sets in. How can you build an honest relationship without truly being yourself? The obvious answer is that you can’t, and this article is a wakeup call for any of you who are trying to.The best way to reassure yourself that, one, she is open to your advances, and, two, that you won’t have to suffer her rejections, is to be yourself!
Does she like you – The usual signs
You see her and your heart begins to pound. She talks to you and you hang from her every word. She smiles at you and you imagine kissing those lips … we all know how it goes. As special as this girl may seem to you, in many ways she’s no different from every woman out there.
What I’m trying to say is, your attraction to this girl causes you to put her on a pedestal, which clouds your judgment. Think logically about it, and you’ll see the proof in the fact that every guy out there isn’t throwing himself at her feet.
What this means, nothing more and nothing less, is that your beloved is just another human being. Just like the women you find less attractive, or even your female friends (whose opinion of you doesn’t provoke a crisis of conscious), she also sends more or less obvious signals that reveal her feelings towards you.
Here are a few easily identifiable signs. Hopefully this will reassure you about your situation.
⇒ General attitude: a woman who is interested in a man shows it by adopting a flirty attitude, clearly crossing the barriers of mere polite exchange. If she touches you, smiles a lot,laughs frequently, shows her trust in you, or responds to your teasing, all of this indicates that she is interested in you.
⇒The topic of conversation: A woman who likes you will show it in her speech – she’ll talk about things that she wouldn’t in a normal context. She’ll be more open, sharing details about her private life, personal experiences, or emotional status (and might even talk about her hopes and plans for the future).
The risk here, of course, is that you’ll become her “counselor.” Before that happens, be sure to make your intentions clear.
⇒Her body language: Gestures, facial expressions, eye contact – clues to show you her state of mine are plentiful. And if you’re not sure you “read the situation correctly” (It’s defiantly scary to make a move!),keep your focus on the concrete evidence.
Does she smile at you a lot? Does she seem comfortable during your conversations? Is her body language relaxed and easy? Do you often lock eyes for several seconds without saying anything? Is she often physically close to you? Does she happen to play with her hair, her jewelry, or her glasses around you?
If so, you can be sure that she’s into you! (Check out some of our other articles on the subject)
⇒ Availability: If you’re still unsure about how she feels about you, think about the time you spend with her. Do you see her outside of work or school? Does she adjust her schedule to be able to spend time with you? When you try to make plans, is she open to your suggestions?
And what about the digital world?Can you have a nice and easy conversation with her via SMS or internet? Do you have things in common? All these details clearly show compatibility and interest, even if you’re not yet totally convinced.
What if I don’t know her personally?
If the lady you’re interested in isn’t in your circle of friends or acquaintances, anticipating her reaction if you make a move is more difficult. Clearly, whether or not she’s into you will depend on your own confidence and the approach you take.
Before putting yourself out there and addressing the girl in question, look for any signals she might be sending. Try to detect the slightest glance or smile, anything that could serve as a reason to talk to her or as evidence of her interest.
The truth is, you’ll only know if she is interested in you once you start talking to her. The key is to be relaxed and easy, as we’ve explained many times here on SBK.
If you want to know if she likes you, you need to be able to put up a shield, to protect your vulnerability and be able to see the situation clearly. This is what we refer to as “emotional detachment.” If you can let go of the fear of rejection and the pressure to impress her, you can focus on the moment, the conversation, and her expressions of interest.
Whatever the nature of the situation (if you’re trying to impress a classmate, a colleague, or a stranger in a public place), you’ll be able to keep a cool head if you can make minute observations, set aside your gut reactions (stage fright, fear, or doubt), and keep the threat of rejection in perspective.
Knowing how to read the signs addressed to us is one thing, but interpreting them correctly is what you really need to be able to do. Don’t forget that, even if a woman is interested in you, you need to show her your strengths, your intentions, and your respectful attitudeif you want her to open her heart.
Realizing this is useful because it helps you understand that getting this girl to like you is the same as pleasing anybody. She might be special to you, but she is just like anybody else, using the means at her disposal to communicate and show her feelings.
Your task is to distance yourself from your emotions, analyze the situation objectively, and seize the opportunities that are available to you. Always remember to be yourself, which is the best thing you can do to help you achieve your goals.
Don’t let the pressure get to you. And keep in mind, the longer you worry about what this girl thinks about you, the more you risk missing your chance if something better comes along.
I wish you good luck anyway and encourage you to leave feedback through the comments. This will allow the entire community to better understand how to make that special someone return our affections.
Until then, keep your eye on the ball! Team Seduction by Kamalis counting on you!
Good luck and see you soon!
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