Even though there’s no lack of dating sites and apps, like Tinder, Meetic, Happn, and so on, you may (luckily) still find yourself in a real-life situation. What I mean by this is, being in the same place at the same time as a chick that you really want to seduce.
And so, I want to give you my best pointers so that you’ll know how to seduce a girl, with this step-by-step guide.
We’ll do this in two parts. First, we’ll focus on you, my friend, and on the way you have to act to seduce a woman. In the second part, we’ll see how to seduce a girl by determining what they want or don’t want.
Part One: How should you act if you want to seduce a woman?
Before learning how to seduce a girl, you’re going to have to focus on yourself, my friend. I’m sure you’re familiar with the saying “Before you can love someone else, you have to love yourself,” and that’s exactly what this is all about. If you’re hoping to seduce a girl, first you have to love and have confidence in yourself. Let’s start there.
1. Be self-confident
A woman can sense if a man has confidence in himself or if he’s awkward and unsure. If the latter description fits you, I’d prefer to tell you this right away: You have less of a chance of seducing a girl. Why? Because a woman wants a man who knows where he’s going and what he wants. A woman wants a man who has enough self-confidence to be able to play the role of protector, among others.
So, be self-confident. If this is already the case, that’s great and you can skip to the next step, but if you’re reading this guide, I’m guessing that self-confidence is something you lack. But the good news is that, with a bit of work, you can become more confident.
To get some self-confidence, take care of your mind, your physique, and your stomach. Try to have the maximum amount of positive things in your mind as possible; hanging out with as many positive people as possible will help with that. Read, watch, and listen to positive things, whether they’re books, magazines, documentaries on TV, videos online, music, podcasts, etc.
For your physique, you probably know you have to do at least one physical activity that you enjoy. No need to spend 3 hours at the gym every day of the week. No. But you should be active at least 30 minutes every day, or 1 hour every other day, depending on your schedule. Why? Not only to keep your body healthy, but also your mind (the two are connected).
As for your stomach, you have to fawn over it. Eat healthy and especially keep your little pleasures varied. If you like a good pizza or burger, go for it, but choose quality restaurants that use quality products.
Ultimately, taking care of yourself inside and out to feel your best is the way to finally get some self-confidence. Don’t forget that people can immediately see if a man has confidence in himself or not, and I can guarantee you that to seduce a girl, you are going to need self-confidence, my friend!
2. Put your passion or something you’ve mastered in the spotlight
If women like men who are self-confident, they also like men who are passionate and/or experts at something (or somethings).
I can imagine you desperately trying to find a new passion or subject to dive into, but no need to panic, my friend. No need to get too caught up in all of this. Think about who you are and what you’re passionate about, what interests you. What have you found? Perfect.
Now you’re doing to have to make this passion or expertise your best ally to help you seduce this girl you’re interested in, by sharing it with her. The fact that you’re an expert in something or that you have a passion allows you to put yourself into the spotlight in a subject that you’ve mastered. What’s the point? Showing madame that you’ve got a deep knowledge in an area that she doesn’t know much about will make her admire you and give you a big advantage when it comes to seducing her.
3. Always be positive, not a whiner.
Do you want to seduce a girl who sulks and never smiles? No, that’s what I thought. Well, that goes for women, too. They have absolutely no interest in being seduced by a man who sulks and is always negative. So be positive, not a whiner.
This goes along with what I told you in the part about self-confidence. If you’re positive and happy, your chances of seducing a girl are a lot higher than if you’ve got the opposite state of mind and way of behaving. There’s no room for negativity in seduction – get that well into your head, my friend because it’s your smile and positive attitude that will help you seduce this woman that you desire so much.
See the good in life, with your glass half full rather than half empty. In the flirting phase, never have a negative attitude, whatever happens. Never say anything negative about yourself or about the woman in front of you (this should be obvious), or about, say, your waiter. Nothing negative should come out of your mouth or your body (for example, don’t cross your arms when you’re talking to the woman who’s captivated you).
4. Know how to be funny, but with boundaries.
Humor is a weapon of mass seduction if you know how to use it. Know how to be funny, but within limits. Avoid dirty jokes about sex, drinking, or women, at all costs. Opt for personal anecdotes or stories where you ended up in a funny situation. Of course, do not talk about your nights out drinking where you ended up with your head in the toilet bowl…Those kinds of stories will only make your friends laugh.
On the other hand, you could tell a story like, “I was food shopping the other day and I wanted to some oranges. I picked up a bag, but I didn’t see that it had a hole in it, so when I turned to put them in my cart, they all fell back into the crate. I felt stupid, but it made me laugh.”
That’s all. I chose an example with oranges to show the simplicity and lightness of this kind of story. It’s a realistic scenario that also works to your advantage because it shows that you know how to do your own food shopping and that you eat fruit, on top of that. The lady you’ve got your heart set on will say to herself, “Ah, that’s a good sign, he takes care of himself.” Add to that the fact that this situation could have embarrassed or even enraged another man, while you find it rather funny and can’t help smiling at it.
The girl will think that you don’t take yourself too seriously and that you know how to laugh at simple things, so it’s a huge plus for your seductive charm.
One important thing: never belittle someone in an attempt to impress a girl. Women can’t stand a man who teases others and like men even less if they mock a person to make themselves look better. She will cut you off right there, so always be respectful and only make fun of yourself.
5. Always be respectful towards yourself and others.
When it comes to seducing a girl, respect is essential. Always be respectful towards yourself and towards others, including the girl who’s got your attention.
A respectful man has far more chances of seducing a woman than a disrespectful one. A man who knows the meaning and value of respect will always be more appealing.
Respect yourself by knowing how to show your personality and not being influenced by anyone else. You are a man and you should know how to hold your head high without lacking respect towards anyone, including yourself.
As for the girl you want to seduce, always be respectful towards her and never say or do anything that you may regret and that would ruin this flirtation phase.
Part 2: How to seduce a woman based on what she does or doesn’t want?
Clearly, you’re not going to seduce a girl the same way if you meet her in a bar as you would if you met her in an art gallery. And of course, girls all have different tastes and you’re going to have to adapt your seduction strategy to the place, the moment, and, especially, the girl.
But above all, you’re going to have to show proof of empathy to understand if what you’re doing or saying is something she likes or doesn’t. Of course, the golden rule is to be yourself and act naturally, all while keeping in mind what the woman in front of you is feeling.
Here are 4 essential points to help you seduce a girl. It’s useless to bludgeon you with a long list of what or what not to do; I’d rather get right to the point.
1. Know how to use your gaze.
Know how to look a girl in the eyes without making her uncomfortable, all while maintaining a confident and reassuring gaze that will put her at ease.
Do not, under any circumstances, keep your eyes riveted on her cleavage or her backside. Look into her eyes and only her eyes. If you want to take a quick look at her curves, remind yourself that she’ll give you the chance, for example when she leaves the table at the restaurant to go to the bathroom.
2. Be playful.
It’s important to be self-confident and to have solid conversation topics but you should also be playful. Women love to be teased and anyway, the more you like someone, the more you bother them, as the saying goes. Don’t go overboard, though, and never be disrespectful. Know how to tease her to increase those bonding moments.
3. Become a master of touch.
To seduce a woman, you have to know how to touch her. Become a master of touch by keeping one rule in mind: never touch her lower than her shoulder or the top of her arm, especially during your first dates. You could, however, put your hand on her back when you accompany her into or out of a room. You can also touch her hand, but without being too insistent.
On the other hand, never touch her legs, her backside, or her hips. Use occasional physical contact to instill a closeness between you and to show her that you’re attracted to her. And, if she frequently touches you, bingo! – she’s attracted to you, too.
4. Maintain a little bit of mystery.
Don’t tell her everything about you – keep a little bit of mystery. If you want to seduce a girl, you absolutely have to be a bit mysterious so that she’ll want to know more about you.
If the part of this article that talks about you is much longer, that’s because you are the one trying to seduce the girl. That’s right: It all begins with you.