What do you actually know about anal sex? Think women hate taking it through the back door? That they think it’s too tight, dirty, or painful? Wrong! Many women are crazy about it!
And when you know how to do it right, it can even become as addictive as traditional sex. For this to happen, my friends, your partner needs to trust you completely (especially if you’re young – many women discover this illicit pleasure as young as 20 years old!).
Trust, therefore, takes front stage. Women don’t want to feel like they’re being taken advantage of, or like they’re doing something inappropriate. Here are some tips to master the act of anal sex, and get your partner to want it as much as you do!
1. Lube is your friend!
Anal sex can be painful for a woman, especially the first time. The skin around the anus is particularly thin, and can crack easily. You’re going to need more than your average lubricated condom.
Vaseline or any other synthetic lubricant is essential (you can find very good lubricating oils online or in pharmacies).
It’s impossible to use too much lubricant! Do not skimp – use half a bottle if you want! This will make your partner comfortable and ensure that you won’t have to stop the action because your partner starts to feel uncomfortable!
2. Start slow (very slow)
The anus doesn’t react like a vagina. You can’t speed up your rhythm as quickly as in traditional sex. The anal muscles need to relax to be able to accommodate your member. Longer foreplay is required.
While kissing your partner, rub a lubed fingertip around her anus. If she feels rushed or pressured, you don’t stand a chance, so always be gentle and move slowly! You can also use sex toys designed for this purpose, which you can find in any sex shop, or online, if you’re shy.
Insert your finger and begin a slow in and out movement. The best techniqueis to start with your little finger, then build up to using the others.
Once your partner is comfortable with your fingers, you’re ready to insert your member – by gradually increasing the size of what enters the anus, she’ll be able to relax enough to accommodate your penis.
3. Shit happens!
The truth is, porn actresses do 2-3 enemas before filming an anal sex scene. Enemas can be a bit of a “buzz kill,” though, and you may not want to stop in the heat of the moment. If that’s the case, don’t be surprised or disgusted with what you might find in there… After all, you’re entering uncharted territory!
You (probably) aren’t a porn star, but you can still prepare for the unexpected. Keep some wet wipes on hand in your nightstand or under the bed. Make sure the lights are off or low so that your partner won’t be embarrassed.
If you’re not comfortable with an unpleasant smell when you pull out, or if seeing a bit of fecal matter bothers you, then anal sex is probably not for you… Not without planning, at least!
Of course, convincing your partner to do an enema in preparation for anal sex may be easier said than done. This is especially not recommended if it’s her first time!
4. Act classy after finishing the act
Once the act itself is finished, you can’t just roll up in a ball and go to sleep. And you certainly can’t pat your partner on the ass and ask her to go make you a sandwich and bring you a beer. A little respect, please!
Since you both need to clean up, why not hop in the shower together? Share the moment with her, pleasure her,show her that what you just did was perfectly normal. There is no shame in enjoying every part of each other. And she needs to enjoy it as much as you do.
Share your feelings about what just happened. Tell her how much you enjoyed the experience and sharing it with her. If you skip this step, you can be sure it will be your last visit to her backyard!
Anal sex is a pleasurable experience that requires trust and intimacy with your partner. You don’t want to gain pleasure from her pain. With patience and time, your partner will discover the pleasure associated with anal penetration.
Soon, she will ask you to pick up the pace! But do not forget that you need to stay a true gentleman!
Of course, this is all called into question if your one-night-stand initiates anal sex herself. This is undoubtedly a veteran seeking the fullness and pleasure of this illicit act!
In this case, there’s only one thing to do – bend to her will and give her what she wants! After all, you’re a nice guy who doesn’t want to disappoint! Anyway, good luck to everyone, and remember to let us know your thoughts in the comments! We look forward to hearing from you!
See you kids!
J & B