Here we are finally at the third part of the article, and we have just arrived to that nice café where your seduction game is about to get started. 3…2…1… gentlemen, the game can start!
First, don’t sit face to face, as it is not a job interview, and it is not a romantic date. I repeat the words “nice café” which means cafés where you have couches where you can sit comfortably next to your princess in a cool and comfortable position, in a position where you can use kinesthetics (physical contact which is so important and crucial) in a close position where the connection can go through subtly, perfectly, but more importantly, EFFECTIVELY.
Kinesthetics is a very broad topic, and I would need at least one article (if not more) to develop the concept, but let me give you a light version of it: kinesthetics involves communication and interactions, which makes your referent (your princess) more and more comfortable. There are several stages, which we may refer to as “kinesthetic escalation” as your start by touching her shoulders, her arms, her back, her thighs, in a very natural and unisexual way (while you’re having conversation) and when you reach a sufficient comfort and intimacy level, you can install kinesthetics in a very sexual way, but let’s leave that for later.
I’ve mentioned this before. We are not at a job interview, so the first rule is:
Stop sharing your resume
A lot of us like to “attack directly” as in I will mention everything that’s on my resume, I will impress her, show her that I’m very competent and professional and that I’m the kind of man she can count on!
Let’s take the example of my neighbor, Greg.
He had a date with a girl he had met recently, they went to a cool bar, and as soon as they had seats he started:
Greg: “The truth is, I work in real estate, it’s a very promising job, I start everyday at 8 AM, and then, I have so much work I don’t even have time to scratch my head, I have so much work, I worked for this huge bank once, Chase bank, and that helps me with my current job, and, blablabla…”
Her: “Mmm… very interesting…”
Honestly, what’s with all the bullshit? Any normal human being would not want to hear about the details of other people’s jobs, which as annoying as when it rains, and it’s CRUEL!!!
So, don’t make that mistake, which is a stupid mistake that will cost you dear.
Let me share a very good trick
A woman who has interest will ask you what you do for a living, those are among the indicators of interest (IOIs). When she asks you what you do for a living, instead of giving a detailed answer, change the direction of the question and avoid it:
Her: “So what do you do for a living?”
You: “when I was a kid, I always dreamed of being an architect, architecture is something extraordinary and fabulous, I love drawing, illustrating, and giving life to my creations blabla… But when I became teenager, I wanted to be a businessman, I love learning about other cultures, and experiencing other adventures, I love traveling, I love adventures…”
Your princess is confronted to a wave of emotions. Practical, isn’t it?
Learn things about your princess
This is the most important step of your meeting. You will make a small trip to your princess’ world. First, to get to know her a little better, and to see whether she’s really worth it, to see whether you’re not wasting your time with her. Don’t forget that you are ALWAYS the REWARD!!
How many girls, however pretty, end up being like green plants that have nothing in their brain? That would be too bad…
So you have a simple tool, but very effective. Use open-ended questions, and NOT closed questions. Use questions that give the opportunity to your loved one to explore a wave of emotions and strong sensations.
Throughout the seduction studies that I could observe, I elaborated a list of 50 open-ended questions, that I use during my first date (of course I’m a human being too you know!!). I will give you a few examples in the article and you will have the complete list in the eBook that I’m finalizing the KamalSeduction© guide.
Notice the difference between a closed ended questions:
“Do you like traveling?”
And the same question, but open-ended:
“If you could choose between travelling all the time and living on a desert island, what would you choose and why?”
In the first question, she will simply answer “yes” and … that’s it. No other outcome is possible.
In the second question, YOU give her the opportunity to express herself (not the fact that I said YOU, YOU give her the chance, YOU are the prize, you lead the conversation, you are the alpha male) she will talk and talk, women love talking!!
This is only the first part of the interaction, because you will have to REACT after her intervention, you will, in the seduction jargon, “qualify her”
Let’s see a small sample of what will happen.
“If you wanted to go to a desert island for 6 months, what would you take with you?”
If you could choose between being invisible or flying, what would you choose? Why?
“What was your dream when you were a little girl? Why?
“If you had to be in a man’s body for an entire day, what would you do? How would you dress up? Would you just be in your underwear all the time?”
“I must admit that you’re very cute, but beauty is something everyone has, so what’s your biggest quality??”
The list has many other examples and techniques, which will soon be featured in the kamalseduction© guide.
We were saying. I talked about a certain thing called “qualifying her”… I’m not talking about sports teams qualifying for the next round, I’m talking about your princess’ qualification, as you will judge her, give her value, show her your true interest, and you will AVOID THE FRIEND ZONE TRAP.
Qualify her: tell her your interest.
After your question, she answers, and you qualify her, in other words, YOU reward her for her correct answer. For example:
You: “What’s your wildest dream?”
Her: “I want to save humanity… small children who have nothing to eat, who don’t go to school, that hurts my feelings, each time I see them on TV, suffering and dying… I really want to bring something to this cruel world, I want to live in a perfect world…*true story+
You: “Wow… I didn’t know you had so much depth… you know, my first impression wasn’t actually that good… but if you go on like this, I’m going to fall in love with you, and I don’t want this to happen”
The red part is not about qualification, it’s rather a disqualification or un-consideration. In fact, qualification is used to show your interest, whereas a disqualification is used to show your disinterest, therefore you will install doubt in her mind, as you will alternate between hot and cold, which creates a certain tension, very useful in seduction relationships.