Who among us has never heard this sentence :
“I’d rather we just stay friends, you’re an adorable guy, you deserve a better girl than me… let’s not ruin our friendship, you know how much I like you Bob…”
Now you really know what lies behind this sentence, right? To say things simply, I call this bullshit… Yes. These days, there is no real friendship between men and women, the two are not made to play Monopoly together… But what I will highlight in this article, is the big mistake that some men make: “I will be her friend FIRST, and then I will hit on her”, the famous, friends first, lovers next. It’s simply a stupid strategy.
Let’s dive in!
So I was saying that one of the most pathetic things, is to choose to put yourself in her friend zone, that is, to become her friend. OK, it’s true that it may be less painful that being thrown into that zone by the girl herself. But it’s still, really stupid. You may want to ask me why?
Well you should know that women in general, not to say ALL women, consider that a man who follows the way of friendship, is a desperate, pathetic man, who is incapable of leaving the *horrible* social circle, incapable of leading independent and interesting lives. Pathetic, isn’t it?
The formula is simple: “a friend she sees in you, a friend you will remain”. A good buddy she sees in you, her puppy you will be…
Gentlemen, don’t forget that you are the REWARD, that you have a rich and interesting social life and that it is an honor and privilege that YOU are giving women the chance to get to know you and to be in your company… And that’s, and only that, what will make you a great seducer, therefore, a truly happy man. A real man.
Let’s move on to things that are a little more technical. How can you avoid falling in that Friend Zone? Let’s see together how to leave this “puppy zone”.
To avoid the horrible situation where she says “let’s be friends” it’s very simple: if there’s this girl who is cute, and who you’re interested in, you choose her as a potential friend, and go ahead and be direct. Don’t take the “friend-lover” ticket, but prefer the first class option: “lover-lover”. Why travel if you are not planning to be happy?
Why waste time and energy for ONE girl, when any normal seducer with an important social life and whose life does not revolve exclusively around women has more important things to do…
In fact, if the woman gives you the opportunity to hear the famous sentence “of this is really cute, but you know, I’d rather we just stay friends”. Well then you should know that it is ALL your fault. That is because you are boring, you brag about your life all the time, you are an annoying person who does not sex up his conversations, you don’t seduction’s most powerful weapon: kinesthetics. You’re a coward, you don’t tell your true intentions and final goals.
To be honest with you, we’ve all been through that. We’re all still going through that. But I have a solution for you called “jokers”. Let me explain:
The first card you will use is that of JEALOUSY. Yes, I said jealousy. The weak point of any woman is the fact that she gets jealous. Even though you may be good friends and all that, you may surprise her and shock her. Let’s take an example:
Sarah is 5 years old. For Christmas, her mother gave her a doll. Sarah does not stop playing with her toy, they are constantly together, they never separate. What happens is that Maria, Sarah’s little cousin, comes visit her. Sarah’s mother gives Maria this doll so she can play with it and respect the principles of hospitality.
Question: Describe Sarah’s reaction. Answer: She freaks out, and bursts.
That’s the same thing for you here. By talking to her about the new friend you met at the bus stop, about the new neighbor that you invited the day before to help you choose your decoration, or your banker who’s really cute… your target will go nuts, and will naturally start getting the feeling that she’s losing you, losing the toy that she loves so much.
The second card you can use is how available you are. For the love of God, stop being constantly available for her, TOO available. You should show that from now on you are someone busy, therefore someone interesting. Here’s a little trick: your target will call you to have a glass of friendship (which is often the case), you may accept and then cancel.
Target: Hello, Hicham
Target: So what’s up?? You wanna have a drink tonight?
You: OK, no problem
Target: OK see you then, same place
You: OK See ya
One hour later…
You: Hey Sarah!
Target: Heeeeeey Hicham
You: I just wanted to say I can’t make it tonight, I completely forgot, I have to meet Maria, we have this thing together
You: *interrupting her* Let’s meet up next time OK Sarah? I hope you’re not angry at me or anything!
Here’s the example of the kind of tactic that you can start practicing if you want to conquer your loved one, but keep this sentence in mind:
“It’s very easy to seduce a new girl, to try correcting the mistakes made with your current target.
- Don’t be friends with a woman you like.
- Stop sharing your life.
- Sex yourself up (you can learn more about this concept in this site.
- Play with her jealousy.
- Don’t be TOO available.