Today we are going to see together the 5 big common seduction mistakes that men, do and keep doing, once they end up in front of a beautiful woman.
Stop making women your one and only motivation
It is THE biggest mistake that a man can possibly make. I know men who go as far as considering women their one and only reason to live.
You know what I mean?
I know some guys who do everything, FOR women. Like my cousin Richard who buys new clothes just to show off and look good in front of Sarah, that girl from the accounting department. Another guy wastes money CARELESSLY to meet women, like my neighbor Bob who joins different clubs (yoga, bodybuilding, horse riding…) when he really sucks at such activities and hobbies… But he’s there, taking it easy and he is being proud of himself… ‘I do it to meet beautiful women’, he answers courageously.
And I don’t want to mention those who talk about NOTHING BUT women, when they know nothing about the topic. They annoy you with that topic all day long, with their invented stories and bullshit… Oh my God !
FIRST, think about your professional career and enjoy yourself each time you have an opportunity to spend time WITHOUT being surrounded by a woman. If a friend invites you for a night out, never refuse with the excuse that you don’t have a woman to go out with, just go there and enjoy yourself… Women come later!
Stop being TOO nice
And yes…I am going to mention this topic AGAIN! When you’re too kind with women, you are… a pain in the ASS!
I recently met a real Mister Nice Guy who was a really a pain in the ass by the way he behaved, as he was trying to seduce one of my friends. As we were about to enter a coffee shop, he would run like crazy to open the door for her, and he would act like a hyperactive 3 year-old kid to pull the chair for her, and of course, he would pay for all the bills (including mine, just to impress her)
Being nice in your friendships with your best friends is something great and extraordinary… Unfortunately, when it comes to seduction, that’s not the way it works, as nice and docile guys do NOT attract women, they make them run away.
Stop being TOO available for women
GET A LIFESTYLE!
And I repeat…
GET A LIFESTYLE!
GET A LIFESTYLE!
Women are not your priority. If you plan for a weekend out with your buddies, and that, oddly, Sarah the girl you’re flirting with now, calls you and offers to see you, don’t act like a failure by canceling your plans! Letting down your friends is not the loyal thing to do, it’s frustrating. I know some people who can courageously admit it:
‘You know what Sarah, I let down my friends, just for you for you’
So you think you’re going to seduce her by showing her that you’re a freak who does not respect his friends? Do you?
The opposite will happen, as you will attract her towards you only by showing her clearly that you are someone responsible who respects friendship:
‘Sorry Sarah, this weekend is reserved for MY FRIENDS, thanks for calling, we’ll have a cup of coffee some time this week, I’ll call you back’
Believe me… This kind of attitude will make you an interesting and seducing man, a man with a rich social life who knows the dynamics of social interaction very well.
Stop giving gifts
Paying for restaurant bills, giving flowers, buying chocolate, writing poems and post cards, are ingredients for an ‘anti-seduction’ recipe.
If I barely know a woman, and that I constantly give her gifts to make her happy, I send her this message:
‘I’m not capable to seduce you through my real personality, and that’s why I’m trying to buy your love with my money and gifts’
I know you may be shocked, because we’ve all done this (and still do it) and it’s just… NOT SEDUCING. Smart women can accept all your offers for dates and all your gifts, while giving you the impression that they like you, but they will never sleep with you… Then who will look like the idiot?
Stop showing TOO MUCH interest, TOO soon
Here I must admit that I find this attitude kind of stupid… How could you tell a woman that you love her if you’ve only met her twice??
Tell me… how?
How is that possible ?
Let’s be serious my friends… Telling a woman that you love her so soon suggests that you’re a desperate man, who has been single since World War II. Again, you are not seducing. You’re the 50th man that she’s met and, also, the 50th man who told her the same thing. Women are not stupid, of you show her that you’re interested early on… it’s over, the seduction game between both of you comes to an end. There is no more mystery, she won the game, she knows that you’re after her, they’re nothing exciting, nothing interesting… She will not return your calls.
What can you tell a guy he says ‘I love you’ at the first date ?
You tell me!
Do not make these mistakes anymore. And keep in mind that seduction needs work on the field, along with women, and not in front of your damn computer.