Self-confidence is a very important element when trying to seduce women. If you have no self-confidence, it could be very difficult, if not impossible for you to seduce her.
If you sweat, speak with a shaky voice, talk too quickly, you won’t be very attractive.
During the training I received last year, I took a few lessons in self-confidence. That’s when my interest in psychology grew. I therefore set up a method to make people regain their self-confidence. And guess what?
Do you want evidence that these techniques work? Let’s go ahead!
Before you use I disclose my method (am I being generous or what?) I must say that I was a very shy person. During one year, I used to read the articles I would write on seductionbykamal without practicing any of them (ouch, I think Kamal’s gonna hit me). When I approached women, I would have cold sweats, I would blush, and nothing would come out. What then happened was that I would leave without getting what I wanted.
Then, by applying this method for two months, I no longer stuttered, my voice was calm and… I was able to apply Kamal’s advice, and my life became awesome, and I still have an awesome life.
I can hear you say “OK so is he gonna disclose his damn method?” I’m getting there. It’s a method based on 3 principles, which if you follow, scientific estimations say you will be able to see results within 21 days (3 weeks). Ready? So buckle your seat belts, let’s hit the road!
Go ahead, tell me about your childhood
This is often what shrinks ask their patients. They try to find out what elements the patient experienced that because a certain trauma, which they then analyze.
So what should you do with all this? Try to see what elements in your past cause you to lose self-confidence. Then don’t give too much importance to those elements.
Here are examples related to my experience:
when I used to be a kid, my father never bought what I wanted (watches, cell phones, nice clothes), and he would always say « people will take them away from you anyways so why bother ». He would make me look like the big loser who always got his stuff stolen by other people, even his underwear. He didn’t trust me. I though about those memories again and did not give them importance. They’re not important because now I have very nice clothes, a cell phone, a nice watch etc. and I’ve never had problems since no one ever stole them from me.
My father would also tell me “you ain’t no good. You’re gonna end up homeless! Etc.” I thought about this and let it go. I’m now attending an MBA program, which is something I love and that can give me the job I always dreamed of. This shows that I’m actually good at doing something and not just minor things…please. These are examples, and there are plenty of others, but I won’t mention all of them. You can write down your elements on a sheet of paper and write down why you should let them go.
To be calm and smooth, relaxation is very important, and many people don’t know how to relax… it’s a pity that many people can’t relax. To gain self-confidence, you should learn how to relax. Indeed, how do you expect to have interesting conversations with women if you’re constantly anxious?
So relax! But careful, you can’t just relax by wanting to relax. Sometimes even shrink practice relaxation. But before you spend money on learning how to relax, let me give you a simple method to learn how to relax.
On the internet, they’re a very interesting video called: “hypnosis session for relaxation”. Look it for it in YouTube and you will find it extremely helpful.
The person watching the video will end up in a state of trance, which will relax him. To be in a state of trance, you should obviously make an effort. Both the hypnotist and the hypnotized person should make equal efforts. It’s not always easy to relax the first time you watch the video, but after 3 or 4 times I think you will have obtained enough practice to relax properly. I would even go as far as saying that it’s a video you should watch at least once a day at the beginning. You will then be able to take sessions once every 3 or 4 days.
This is what I would prescribe.
This is a process which consists in convincing yourself about something before your wish becomes true (just to summarize!)
You now have to assimilate your self-confidence.
For this to be effective, you should not do this randomly. If you repeat to your self several times that you have self-confidence just like that, your conscious will say
« Mmm, this is really cool, but how could this help you gain self-confidence, just like that? »
You should therefore take a detour from this conscious mind… but how? It’s very simple: you should be unconscious!
« But I’m always self-conscious! » I can here you telling me this.
But that’s exactly the point!
Before you go to sleep, your thoughts start dissipating, and that’s when you should repeat to yourself « I’m self-confident ». And in the morning, when you wake up feeling tired, rather than saying to yourself “boy would I love to go back to sleep”, remind yourself that you are self-confident. You will be able to assimilate this self-confidence in a much easier way. These are really simple things related to self-talk that you could do very easily.
It’s the rather authoritarian voice of someone who will put you in a state of trance, once more, to talk to your unconscious mind, and tell yourself that you have self-confidence. Watch this video everyday! It’s very shorts and lasts only 3 minutes! But it works! During strategic moments of the day, meaning in the morning and at night, you should listen to that voice in your head.
I can guarantee that your confidence will take a real boost.
So here we come to the end…
To sum up, first, take time to think about why you lack self-confidence by applying what I said in part 1, and that’s the first thing that you should do. With time, other elements will pop up to your mind and you can add them as time goes by. Relaxation and self-talk are two things that you should practice everyday (using the two videos), and it will only take 20 minutes a day (don’t tell me you don’t have time for that).
This nice little program will help you boost your self-confidence, and will enable you to do many things that you were not able to do previously, and will therefore help you increase your self-confidence.
Now it’s your turn to go ahead! Go and hit the road… NOW!