One day, you questioned yourself and asked yourself “why can’t we lead happy lives? Why are we caught in the killer routine trap?” And that’s exactly when we started feeling happy, because happiness never comes alone: if you’re on SBK or a site of the same kind, you’ve probably read a lot of article on how to become a ladies’ man learned so many things that other people will probably never know, you apply everything that you learned, you apply it rather successfully and everyone’s happy.
Then comes the moment when you have to look closer in the text and look deeper in your soul to see what YOUR PERSONALITY really is all about!
You’ve just realized it! It’s what incited you to perform this internet research, and what have you found? Special sections about « personal development » where you can find many (good and bad) analyses that are sometimes rather pertinent!
The only problem is that when we say development, we mean change and for a lot of people (see for yourself), “you should be natural, be yourself… bla bla”. “People hate change, and yet change is the only thing that enables improvement” Charles F. Kattering.
I know, through this article, I will show you how I see things, but it is only my vision. I will give you simple example.
If you look at a beach, its rocks and its sand… it’s always beautiful. The first time you look at it, we tend to think that it’s the same old beach, lifeless beach… BUT YET, as time goes by sand transforms itself into rocks and the other way around, the coast changes, but we don’t pay attention to that… WHY? Because it remains beautiful!
We could easily say that we could do the same thing with our personalities, make them attractive, charismatic and most importantly attractive, and that, forever! Without losing its natural touch… « The more it changes, the more it’s the same thing » Said « Alphonese Karr » in his book « bees ».
How do we manage to do that?
The answer is simple: you should keep asking yourselves questions regarding your development, your errors. You should learn from the past and from other people’s stories! You should judge yourself while thinking that failure does not exist, because it does not match with success and experience ;)
The goal of self-development is not to change yourself but to FIND YOURSELF and to improve and put forward the extraordinary things that you have in you, the sublime, and the shining person that resides in you… and thus enjoy your well-deserved happiness!