Oral sex is one of the best ways to pleasure a woman. However, not all men have mastered the art – are you still making beginner mistakes, or are you a professional? You’ll soon discover the many differences between the two!
Don’t worry if you don’t get the results you want at first – you’ll have plenty of opportunities to improve if you follow the advice we give in our regular Sexuality column.
There she is, laying on the bed, legs spread. She gently removes her underwear like an invitation to take action. You know what she expects from you. She kisses you wildly, pushes your hands away and grabs you by the neck, dragging your head towards her lap…
It’s time to show off your talents! Whether it’s a one-night-stand, or your girlfriend, here are 5 mistakes to avoid if you want to leave her satisfied!
1. Don’t aim too high!
If the spot you’re focusing on, upon closer inspection, looks a bit like a woman’s navel, you’re stimulating the vaginal vulva. You ‘re way too high!
You may think you can skip tasting your partner’s juices by just licking the outside of her vaginal lips and vulva. Make no mistake, it will not work!
The sensitive points of a woman’s vagina are placed at strategic locations, so you won’t get away with it – you’ve got to go deeper! If you can’t stimulate these specific spots, you’ll never be able to make her climb the walls!
2. Don’t stick to what you know
Men often think that women are just like them, focused on penetration. Because of this, they think that their tongue should be used the same way as a finger or penis. Wrong! Big mistake!
Obviously, licking the inside of the vagina or fingering your partner feels good, but you won’t make her go crazy, by any means!
Your mission, should you accept it, is to find her clitoris. Then, and only then, you can insert and use your fingers to intensify the pleasure produced by clitoral stimulation.
3. There is more than one way to skin a cat (or to pleasure a pussy)
Once you find the clitoris, you should keep in mind that not all women enjoy the same type of stimulation. Some will love it if you gently suck, while others prefer for you to lick quickly with a horizontal movement, or very slowly in a circular manner. All of this – and more – is possible.
Unfortunately there is no way to know what your partner prefers before you jump into the heat of the action. It does not even depend on the shape or size of the vagina or clitoris. You’ve just got to go for a test drive.
Start slowly varying your movements and methods to see how your partner reacts. Important point: pay attention to your teeth! If you don’t want her using teeth during a blow-job, spare her the pain when it’s her turn on the receiving end!
4. Women are delicate
The clitoris is a sensitive spot! Don’t be rough, since this may hurt your partner. Forget porno movies or other stupid sources of “inspiration.” Be gentle with her hot spot.
Oral sex is not an opportunity to demonstrate your strength or manliness. This is a time for you to focus on pleasuring your partner and show her that you consider her needs as important as yours.
SBK advice: make sure that your fingers are well lubricated (with lube, gel, or even saliva) your beard trimmed (or non-existant), and keep your tongue active so you don’t risk an accidentalnibble that could stall the action.
5. Don’t stop too soon!
You probably wouldn’t last 5 minutes if a talented partner gave you a blow-job. Unfortunately, women are very, very different.
They sometimes take hoursbefore reaching orgasm. Yes, hours. No, I am not joking. Don’t be impatient. But take comfort in the knowledge that, on average, most women can achieve orgasm within 20 minutes.
This will require practice, but if your goal is really to give your partner the greatest pleasure possible, you will need to be an energetic and devoted lover, and leave your laziness and selfishness at home!
Learn how to make a woman come with your tongue, and you will reap the rewards. Was it a one-night-stand? She’llask for more, and you’ll have no problem booking booty calls in the future!
The great thing about all this is that, since giving women an orgasm through oral sex is such a time-consuming challenge, they are generally more than happy to return the favor. You will have earned the blow-job of a lifetime!
The art of cunnilingus is also a great way to show a woman that you know what you are doing, you are confident, and therefore a lover worthy of the name. Once you master it, believe me, women will see you in a new light! So get to work, gentlemen!
We’ll be back soon for more advice on your sex life!