Traveling together as a couple is the only real opportunity to discover or, shall I say, rediscover each other.
But to keep this great idea of traveling together from turning into trench warfare or an explosive break-up, I suggest you follow a few rules. Have you ever had to deal with a:
“My vacation with him (her)…. REALLY serious disaster !!! ”
If so, here are a few tips to avoid seeing your relationship slide down the side of a dormant volcano, and you all know what a volcano does when it wakes up, right ? NO ?
Well, then you should know, it doesn’t sit on the patio looking out over the ocean and reading the newspaper over a little coffee, it explodes in your (Censored)
The vacation for two. . . . .What an experience!
For established couples, before the first gray hairs start showing, it’s meaningful and advisable to share a vacation TOGETHER at least once a year.
These pleasant moments allow you to rediscover yourselves and to decompress. You shouldn’t imagine that love is like getting in your car and being content to fill it up with gas… Hey! no, there’s the service, you have to do maintenance: Maintain your couple, give it time and attention.
Because what’s the point actually, if it isn’t to try to have fun, laughter and super nice moments, but together…. Unless he or she spends all year getting ready and then tells you he or she is leaving with a friend… Can you imagine the couple that comes back from vacation separately and shares photos from their solo vacations on Facebook ?!!!
Him: Who’s this guy with you, with the Tarzan body and the Tahitian Shark fisherman tattoos?
Her: Him? Nothing, it’s no one… Oh! I remember, he kept chasing after me, but I let him know he should stop trying… You know you’re the one I love, Baby… Seriously!!!
There are several kinds of couples who go on vacation, but I’ll mention two:
- The ones who start off glued together like an oyster shell and end up as separate as the North and South poles.
- The ones who start off with the sole purpose of having fun, and end up very quickly as a couple, with their hearts turned into particle accelerators.
It’s true that I’m exaggerating a bit, but don’t forget, vacations can also turn into the period of spring cleaning, major discoveries.
So make especially sure to evaluate and analyze the merits of your relationship, before leaving with your boyfriend or your girlfriend, because at the risk of contradicting myself I’d say that when you go on vacation as a couple, there may be pros… and cons! After all you know your partner better than me.
Right ?
For couples that are constantly on the go, this may simply mean spontaneous little weekends, before one or the other has to get back to work.
But maybe you find that communication protects you at one time or another from unpleasant surprises! Then no worries, you should both take the time to fill in the calendar hung on the kitchen wall next to the fridge.
So let’s take a look at some new couples who decide to travel together to discover the south of Corsica…
Going on Vacation Together Means Discovering… the Other Person!
If this is the first vacation for a couple who don’t even share the same washing machine, I can confirm that this will be a good test. It’s a great way to get to know each other quickly and in a profound way, to learn more about each other. Your good qualities as well as your faults, believe me those will be the first packages you’ll unconsciously pack in your return suitcase!
Because on vacation, we show the truest part of ourselves. So we can see how the other person really behaves, day and night, witness their hygiene, sense of humor, good and bad moods, how they deal with relaxation, moments of joy, fatigue, how you become available or passionate, etc…
Furthermore, it’s a very good indicator of the very first communication between the two of you.
Certainly don’t let yourself believe that a vacation in Ibiza, or on another trendy beach tailored for singles, is one of the best things to do…
Nor do I recommend that you go share the straw bed of a Tibetan monk somewhere on a mountain in northern China… What then?
So, what type of vacation should you have?
That depends on you your partner.
So ladies, if you’re dealing with a total hiking freak, and if you gentlemen are dealing with couch potato, you’ll have to find a compromise.
In my opinion, unless you truly share a passion, it’s better to avoid a last minute vacation!! Take the time to talk about it and find the right reasons…. Because depending on the choice you make, there are types of vacations where you not only can learn more about each other, but you can also have a great adventure together…
You don’t go on vacation the same way you scratch a lottery ticket, so how then do you prepare or imagine sharing this little experience?
On How to Prepare. . . . . Before embarking on this adventure for two!
Keep in mind that this vacation presents an opportunity to relax and pursue your seduction strategy in your new couple, but this time in a different environment, pleasant, fresh and exotic …
You’ll certainly be continuing the seduction as you lie next to your partner in the shade of a palm tree or under an umbrella with the benevolent sun as your tutor.
With sweet talk, full of love and tenderness, you’ll pour warm sand into your partner’s navel…. Immediately provoking your first CRISIS!!! Because unfortunately your princess applied a sunscreen over her entire body the body that costs $75 for a three ounce tube.
You see that things aren’t so easy to figure out…
But don’t worry, gentlemen, how could you know that the young lady doesn’t like grains of sand? Huh! After all, it’s not your fault, you don’t know your partner very well yet.
And you ladies, you can tell I’m only kidding…. NO? Especially if it’s the gentleman who paying for the trip!
So to avoid unpleasant surprises and as a general rule, I advise you to think about the goals of your vacation.
Do you want to get closer to him or her, or just have fun? Although it may seem a bit calculated and strategic, it’s better to open up a little to each other and talk openly, to avoid misunderstandings and make sure you won’t have to return home with a Donald Duck comic book as your only companion…
Whatever location you choose, I’m going to warn you about some traps to avoid once you’re there….
If you’ve both agreed on your goals for the vacation, you’ll be able to stay COOL and do whatever’s necessary to support each other if anything goes wrong… Whatever happens or gets said, don’t lose your composure, think positive and tell yourself that your partner doesn’t want to hurt you. During the initial stages, this will prevent pointless arguments.
Him: You know I’d like it better if you wore this one-piece suit, because the color suits you best…
Her: The color? Or is it that you just don’t like the way my body looks in this mini-bikini?
And if your Romeo or Juliet turns out to be clumsy, try to stay positive by focusing on his / her good qualities. All of this is normal, and vacations are an opportunity to take the time to observe each other carefully and to understand each other better, so you have to avoid trying to change each other, and accept yourselves as part of a harmonious whole instead.
Never make stupid comparisons, and avoid all pointless criticism. Men, and especially on vacations, are no more and no less sensitive to criticism than women, you should keep that in mind.
And like you ladies, they need to be encouraged and complimented.
Some traps to avoid, gentlemen, if you happen to look at other beautiful girls, do it in a discreet and natural way. Jealousy, self-doubt, frustration and your Princess’s lack of self-confidence can lead to you spending a painful vacation…
And yes, when we’re on vacation, especially at the beach, for some strange reason there are always pretty girls around us. Which is something that doesn’t escape us men. As for women, you should understand that they’re going to notice your behavior, along with all of your targets, absolutely right away. So avoid making a scene at all costs, you’re in the middle of a huge parade (the largest annual auction of Dreamline silhouettes). Don’t try to explain it, it’s the self-expression of the goddess Venus…
And to finish. . . . .
What’s Positive :
As far as sex is concerned, this could be one of the best moments of the year! No more commuting to work, racing against the clock, time is suddenly docile and immoral, you’re doing great and the body says: Yes, yes, yes….
Dressed as Tarzan and Jane, your senses sparkling like glasses of champagne, you’ll glide into the forbidden garden and this trip could be the occasion for a great blossoming of your sexuality …
But the most important thing, especially for you girls, out of sight of people who know you, far from people talking about you, you can live the way you want to under the sun, freeing your reputation from the shackles of propriety.
Excess has no limits….
What is negative or risky
Having no self-control, not being able to restrain yourself, manage your impulses, or block the surge of hormones, these things can lead you straight into the arms of someone else! Vacations act like a truth serum, they give the couple over to their worst enemy: their true nature!
A sparkling divorce in the sun, a thousand and one temptations, and don’t forget the daily disasters… you’re playing a jet set couple and for one evening, for one afternoon it’s great, but several weeks stuck under a tent in a two-star campground means you’re taking the risk of sleeping under a volcano that’s already starting to bellow smoke… it could explode!
First apply your sunscreen, a lotion made out of patience and caring….
Well, you know enough to make your choice, so before leaving with him or her, face-to-face, ask yourself whether you mind the risk of losing everything or winning everything! And if not . . . . go for it!
And if between this that and the other “affair” :) … this is the end of your story and your relationship, then the vacation was only the fuse that preceded your inevitable separation, which would inevitably have arisen at one time or another.
Finally, I’d like to give an important piece of advice to girls who want a nice vacation for two: If you need a particular thing then tell him, because he can’t necessarily guess! Otherwise, don’t complain, just formulate clear and simple requests.
So happy vacation, everyone!
Your Friend,
Kamal.
