I’ve noticed in recent times, that most of the readers who’ve sent me emails, have asked me, almost without exception, to help them get back their Ex-girlfriend.
I don’t know whether there’s a virus that’s going around right now, making everyone lose their girlfriends, or whether it’s simply an era of mass break-ups.
In any case, we’re going to address this little problem today, and that way, everyone will be happy, as my father likes to say :)
Just to put things in their place and to give them a context, I remember having discussed in a previous article, the one about how to break up with your girlfriend, the different ways of leaving the girl you’re dating in the classiest way possible.
And yet, today, it’s the other way around…
You’re NOT in that situation, because SHE is the one who left you, and you are, probably, miserable.
Everyone knows the depth of the suffering you feel after getting dumped by your girlfriend, there’s no doubt about it.
You’re in love with her, you love everything about her, you’ve had wonderful unforgettable experiences together, but there’s just one catch, it’s all over now, she’s telling you : Bye-bye.
And that’s where… The problems begin, or should I say, YOUR problems.
You start trying to figure out the how and the why, you’re looking for THIS reason that made her dump you and THAT reason that put an end to your love affair. After several days of deep thinking, loneliness, sadness, clichés, heartbreak, etc…. This idea shows up in your plans :
How I can get my ex back.
Or should I say, this STUPID idea that’s popped into your mind.
Oh yes…
In fact, I have some bad news for you…
The title is… FAKE.
What I should have written is : How to NOT get back your ex.
Yes… What you just read is quite real.
The explanation…
You have undoubtedly read and reread this article: The rules of SeductionbyKamal.com, and you have, obviously, accepted what I called : The philosophy of SeductionByKamal.com.
Perfect.
Well now my friends, here, a new rule to add :
“Never try to get your ex back. It’s not good for your health.”
Now let me show you the main idea of the subject.
But…
Before going any further, I’d like to warn you that, what follows, is the fruit of MY personal experience, therefore it’s about, MY opinion, MY vision of things. You are not obligated to agree with me.
Getting back an ex was always, for me, the kind of thing losers do.
The formula is very simple.
Women are extraordinarily creatures and extremely intelligent because : They always give you one chance. If you grab it, life is beautiful… If you DON’T grab it, you’re OUT : Game Over.
The thing I really like about women is their sense of detachment. In fact, every woman, before making this kind of decision -the breakup- she lets herself take ALL the time she wants before telling you the verdict, the cold hard reality.
For her, it’s over between the two of you, basta, finito, it’s over !
Therefore trying to win back her affection is a very fine recipe for wasting your time, and moreover, for delaying the progress of your personal development.
So now you get it, seduction is, in the first place, a matter of self-improvement, a matter of confidence, and of self-esteem. The fact that you don’t accept the way things really are and then desperately hope to win back your ex-girlfriend, who is probably already fooling around with some other guy, IS THE WAY A LOSER ACTS !
She’s already turned the page, you should turn it too!
Or you know what… Don’t turn the page : Tear it up and start a new book, a new life.
Being back in the world of single people is, in fact, a very nice situation for putting your seduction arsenal into action. You’ve undoubtedly gathered lots of knowledge about seduction, it’s the PERFECT time to put all that into action on the ground.
Now, let’s switch registers. Because I know that deep in your heart, you really want to learn at least a few strategies that will help you get, so to speak, your revenge (on life or on her) or whatever… So I’m going to give you a few pieces of advice for after a breakup :
Be STRONG
No one likes kiss-ass guys. Needy guys. Trying to beg and plead with her, following her around everywhere in the hope of getting her back is only going to make her run away, again and again… Forget that moronic idea and go sob your heart out in some far-off corner, keep your tears well HIDDEN ! She wants absolutely nothing to do with them.
Increase your social value
She left you, there absolutely has to be a reason. She’s going to see you, from here on out, as a guy with a mediocre social value, you’ve lost huge amount of points in her scorebook, you’ve been devalued in her eyes. Your mission is therefore to regain your social value and to solidify it. Go out and meet women, beautiful women, and subtlety let her know what you’re up to. Because if you don’t already know it, even if your ex has left you, she’ll try one way or another to find out what’s going on with you. Take advantage of that to show her the seducer that you are !
Stay in touch
Not too much, of course. Don’t start inundating her with text messages, e-mails, stuff on facebook. If I’m advising you to remain in touch with her, it’s only so you can subtlely send her your relationship “updates.” This also let you show her that you are someone who accepts and COMPLETELY acknowledges reality. You’ll also show her that this hasn’t really harmed or bothered you, life’s wheel keep turning and life is great. You never know, you could always go out with one of her friends.
Identify her rival friend, and flirt with her !
Women always have a rival friend. Even if both of them give the impression that they get along harmoniously, they never actually do. If you’re the type of guy who’s “spiteful / vindictive,” and you enjoy challenges and tests, try to get in touch with this special friend and begin your seductive work with her: disregarding will be your most important weapon.
Why ?
This rival friend knows that you’ve been dumped. The fact that you’ve gotten in touch with her will make her think that you’re trying to go out with her, unless you MASSIVELY disregard her but in an intelligent way, like : “I think I’m NOT cut out to be a boyfriend” or perhaps: “I’m very happy to have friend like you” etc. will allow you to hide your intentions and your messages : switch between hot and cold!
Have fun
When you’re in a relationship, there’s a natural tendency to ignore your own needs. After your famous breakup, it’s the perfect time to take care of that problem :
Buy yourself some new clothes, and start yourself, why not, a little relooking (or or visit our future agency RelookingByKamal :) ) a new style, a new haircut : a new frame of mind.
Also lift weights or work out generally so you’ll feel like you’re looking your best. Doing that will give you confidence, and will therefore raise your assurance level. You’ll quickly see that this will have a POSITIVE effect on your entourage, your social circle. Your Ex too ;)
The final word
If you act on this advice, your ex girlfriend will not remain indifferent, especially if she learns about your plans with her little rival… You’ll have a very good chance of going out with her again. But if you want a good piece of advice, DON’T do it. Kindly tell her to take a hike and let her know that you’ve moved on to something new, and also let her know, that she is part of ancient history AND reverse the roles:
“Baby, we’ve had a wonderful time together, I don’t want to spoil our friendship… I hope you won’t hold it against me :)”
All that with a (deadly) little smile on the corner of your lips, it will almost make her bite her fingers ;)
NOTE: This remains my own philosophy. But I know that you secretely want to get back you ex So I suggest that you check out the book The Magic Of Making Up. In his work the author presents a step-by-step system that’s easy to put into practice. If you apply this method, exactly as he tells you, you’re certain of getting her back. You have my word on it. Download it HERE>>>
Your friend,
Kamal
