Life is a mixture of highs and lows that can happen at any moment.
This happened to me recently. In moments where everything seems to be going the wrong way, some will even start screaming and will call their condition “sadness”, as feelings invade us, we feel vulnerable, and when we hear remarks that may not seem important, or someone who has a weird sense of humor, we start doubting our ambitions: we doubt our strength and we give our strength doubt.
At that very same moment, our self confidence goes back to zero. This has very bad consequences.
We thought that once we read those articles, applied that advice, applied these good approaches… we could be proud of this personality vigor, but the truth is that only if we apply this self-improvement can we stop feeling lost, and see what we’ve accomplished and what we haven’t accomplished yet.
Self-confidence after “failure”
Sometimes a sad things does not happen just like that, and you have a succession of bitter experiences: you fail your job interview, you get stood up at that date… and then you tell yourself that life is too hard and unfair, because everything you’re trying to build is failing, especially if that’s the reaction you have regarding the events you have to cope with.
What’s worse, some people go as far as making ridiculous things to gain attention. Pathetic things just to create, among their circle of friends, this guilt feeling that will satisfy their ego!
Self-confidence after a big success
You see that nice brunette with sparkling eyes, you overcome your fear, you go talk to her, EASILY get her phone number, along with two numbers that she adds just in case, and your ego gets faltered, you feel very confident… but after a while your ego takes ridiculous proportions, and you will fall in the arrogance trap and curse, which is very bad because you lost your self-confidence, and you compensate it with being mean, something bad for your social proof, and you know the rest ;)
Things you should know…
We can’t act like we’re self-confident; we have to learn it, which requires a lot of experience, time and energy and also will power. Sometimes bad things will help you A LOT with personal development; at that very same moment that confidence is right there in your soul, you will experience success.
Imagine that you see a woman that you like very much, you start playing that game, you’ve seduced her with your charisma, she played along until she decided, for whatever reason, to put an end to it without giving convincing explanations…. You already imagined yourself being in a relationship with her.
Imagine you studied hard and failed badly, or even worse that someone tells you that you passed that difficult examination, you celebrate, and then someone calls you to tell you that you failed, imagine that people curse your, mistreat you despite the fact that you did nothing wrong to hurt them… these situations are tests that you should pass to figure out where you stand on these issues…
Do you feel like stars without overacting because a full moon only lasts one night, just like princes, businessmen, JUST within the limits of arrogance and humor, you will be different from those losers, you now know how to DARE and ASSUME and most importantly GET A LIFE! Don’t forget that, who could love you more than yourself?