Whether you think of yourself as a sex god, or if you’re shy and awkward in bed, sex is full of surprises – more than you could even imagine. More than just a bedroom hobby or a test of your masculinity, sex is a complex phenomenon with physical, but also biological and chemical, implications. It’s not about size, endurance or technique (though that all matters). The chemistry between two people (or lack thereof) depends on many things. The goal of this first article in our new column is to do a little summary of important things to know about sex, before we delve into more detailed explanations, juicy details, and the answers to all your questions.
1 – You and your partner may be incompatible
Though it’s not everything, penetration is still the main element of the sexual act. Although it seems like the most natural thing, it isn’t always so easy. Indeed, incompatibility problems can come up; this is the moment when size DOES matter. If the legnth of your penis doesn’t match the depth of your partner’s vagina, it could be a real mood killer. Why’s that? Because it will be impossible to stimulate the sensitive vaginal walls. Don’t worry, this does not necessarily mean that you are too “short”. It might be that her vagina is too large for you to be able to give her the pleasure she’s looking for.
The opposite can also be true. A woman can be too “tight,” which can cause her pain during intercourse. In this case, there is a natural solution: keep in mind that when a girl is turned on, her cervix dilates, and the size of the vagina doubles (on average). So make sure that your partner is physically ready before taking action! Don’t skimp on foreplay!
2 – Women can have more orgasms than men
It’s no secret that women can have multiple orgasms. But did you know that women can have multiple climaxes? (A climax is the peak, or moment of orgasm.) This is a big difference from men, who can only have one orgasm before needing a break – two if they are lucky! Take it easy, though – this is rare, even for the “professionals” (like the actors in X-rated films)!
Women are able to have multiple orgasms during intercourse because, unlike men, their pleasure does not have to stop immediately after having an orgasm. They don’t need to wait – the pleasure keeps coming. You can compare the feminine sex drive to an oven: It takes time to reach the required temperature, but once it’s hot, it doesn’t cool down so easily!
3 – Self-confidence makes you sexier
Your confidence is much more important than what you wear or what you look like. Men and women become instantly more attractive when they show that they know what they’re doing. Don’t worry about what you’re wearing, your not-so-flat stomach, or your untidy hair! Focus on foreplay and on heating things up. Whatever you do, don’t be shy! Your movement will seem awkward if you hesitate or ask permission first! Acting confident during the act significantly increases your partner’s enjoyment. So don’t get the jitters – jump right in!
4 – Having sex regularly improves your immune system
During sex, our bodies produce an antibody called immunoglobulin A. This helps fight against common diseases such as fevers and colds. Regular sex can produce this antibody, which is essential to your health. This is way more fun than taking cough syrup, and it gives you a good reason to stay under the covers in the winter!
5 – Women also fall asleep after sex
There you go: you’ve done the deed, you turn over, and you feel fatigue winning over. Though it’s best to stay awake a few more minutes for a little cuddling (this shows that you respect and value your partner), you shouldn’t feel guilty if you feel exhausted. Contrary to popular belief, women also feel this fatigue – especially if they’ve been satisfied. So take her in your arms and fall asleep together!
As you’ll soon learn, a lot of preconceived notions about sex are false, and their spread has only caused stress, worry, and loss of confidence. SBK is here to help you master this aspect of relationships!
That’s all for today, but come back soon for the second part of this article!