Have you ever experienced this?
You go on a first date with a woman, you two have a good time, you talk, you exchange, you laugh, you TWO have a blast…
Then you two split to go home: your romantic encounter has come to an end. But because everything went fine, Miss promises she will call you back blablabla…
That’s when all the trouble starts!
Indeed, you were convinced that you two had a good time, and that perhaps she is REALLY busy, which is preventing her from calling you back. That’s your number one lame excuse.
She must really be too busy to call. You then make up the second excuse, to reassure your self and not to feel hurt…
As time goes by, you finally realize that something’s going wrong.
What do common people do in this case?
Congratulations, you have just picked up your phone and called her, what I like to call: the desperate phone call!
First case scenario: She doesn’t pick up.
Second case scenario: She picks up, but you notice that she has changed her attitude toward you. She no longer has that sweet voice that she had when you two were together, this nice voice that really made you want to see her.
As a result: you stick to her like a pitbull, you keep calling her like 35 times a day. Then you realize that she did not enjoy the night out with you, that she was BORED with you, and that she’s not made for you blablabla…
You have guessed it, I will not deal with the first case. The ultra-desperately-romantic-guy-who-knows-nothing-about-seduction needs to work on his skills, so I don’t want to start from the beginning. If you are a guy who calls a girl 35 times a day, I invite you to read carefully the articles related to seduction that we have published on SBK, starting with
I could eventually start by telling you that a first date is not enough for your target to know your true VALUE. She can not infer your personality from that date.
Women judge you in the blink of an eye. A few seconds are enough for her to know a little about you. And that first date will not make her change her mind…
The thing is this judgment is made naturally, intentionally and subconsciously.
Moreover, we men also make that judgment subconsciously regarding women. You should admit that you would imagine spending a night with that woman (especially when she’s pretty) at the very moment you see her: You imagine her wearing a sexy night robe and a little thong (perhaps a pink one?)
However, remember my articles related to first dates, women who accept to go on a date tend to be 40% interested.
Your mission on that first date is to increase that interest level, to move to the next step (naturally, the couple level)
When a woman is not calling you on the first date, which means that her level of interest dropped, instead of increasing. You have reached the bottom my friend.
Let’s do something together.
Let’s go back in time, to that first date.
Tell me… did you ask her where she wanted to go?
Is your answer yes?
Let me guess… you tried to act like a single gentlemen, a polite guy who respects women (I’m not saying that you should beat the hell out of them) but you let her choose the place?
My friend, you have a lot to learn about seduction, especially about women!
Is it that all of a sudden, that she instantly and naturally made her judgment at that very moment! She accepted to go out with you, but you killed any possible attraction between the two of you, in other words, you “screwed” your chances to seduce your target.
But the smartest people among you will ask themselves:
Well my friend, it’s very simple, you are like the 6458349th guy that tried his like with her doing the same mistake, and you are no different!
Why the 6458349th? I suppose that if you often read our articles, you only date interesting and successful women;)
Let’s get back to our problem here, as I hear you asking me a second question…
After this false start, where did the two of you go?
To a restaurant?
To the movies?
Great! You have chosen the path of the most boring man, who is NOT interesting AT ALL, that the woman has met! This is unfortunately pathetic.
Each man who lacks originality and inspiration will offer a plan to go to the moves and to a restaurant. Some even mix both: movies and romantic dinner. Nothing extraordinary!
Take two minutes and think about the word “different”
Most importantly, BE DIFFERENT!!!
You can go to a restaurant to a woman if you’ve known each other for two months or more! Going out with your girlfriend to the movies is also a good way to break the couple’s routine.
But at a first date, no, no, NO! Now let me tell you about another cliché regarding first dates…
Did you ask her permission to kiss her?
If you’ve done that, raise your hand…
Exactly… now take that hand, and with the other free hand, give yourself a slap like you’ve never had one before, ever!
Women don’t like being pressured, especially regarding taking decisions. I will soon publish my book, where I will explain my seduction method, and among the pillars of that method, you have what is called: leadership!
Yes! You’re the man, YOU should take the decisions, and YOU should be the leader! Women should follow YOU! You should be the dominant male…
Don’t be a chicken! Even if you don’t know how to kiss her, here’s a quick and effective method to kiss her (read the article in this link)
Stop talking, look at her in the eyes. Put your hands on her hair. If she has that sweet smile, kiss her like a great seducer!
There you go, it’s that simple!
If you’re still wondering why women don’t call you after the first date, I would ask you why should they? You were just that ordinary guy, very typical (almost pathetic), and you failed to grab her interest: If you don’t want to hear that famous sentence “Oh I spent a great time with you, but I’d rather we remain friends”…
If you don’t want to be like Mr. Everybody…
If YOU want women to call you after the first date…
Be different, be a seducer!