This is an interesting question that every man has asked or will ask at some point in his life. It’s one of the great mysteries of life, and it involves complex feelings about perception of self, manhood, timing, and comparison to others. No one will admit it, but sex, especially when you’re a beginner, is a minefield of fear of failure and the of the unknown. Fortunately, you have SBK! Today, we’ll give you some tips to help you build your confidence and improve your and your partner’s relationship. Take a deep breath, and stay with us!
The manhood paradox
First I’m going to let you in on a little secret: You are a man, and women don’t think about sex the same way you do! Think that’s silly? Or something you already knew? If so, why then do so many men make the same mistake of focusing only on the outcome?
Men, by nature, are action-oriented. The problem that arises, though, is an over-focusing on the “final product.” Was I satisfied? Did I last long enough?