Going out with a girl, whether it’s for the first time or the hundredth, has always been a real challenge for some guys, something they don’t know how to manage…
I’ve written several articles in which I discuss the art of succeeding on a first date… etc. But in this article my mission is to try to explain, once and for all, the ingredients that will make going out with your sweetheart an experience that’s truly… Seductive!
YOU make the plans
Don’t act like guys who fail because their plan is asking the girl to choose what she wants to do, and letting her decide where to go … As a seductive Alpha Male, YOU have to be the one calling the shots, not her!
Always have plans. In fact, a backup plan is always valuable. For example, if your sweetheart calls you and says she has to go to her dog’s funeral, or some other idiotic excuse, you won’t just be left sitting there like an idiot…! Instead, you go to the plan B that you designed well in advance. It’s as simple as that.
So keep in mind that you should never ask the girl where she wants to go, at least not during the first few weeks that you’re dating.
Do something on your date that she’s never done with any loser guys. Let’s make a modest estimate and say that your sweetheart, she’s been invited at least 30 times to a cafe, 45 times to a restaurant, and 75 times to the movies…
That kind of date is just going to remind her of all the guys who tried to take her out, so they could become her boyfriend. And that will naturally activate negative emotions in her which, as a result, will affect YOUR seduction strategy.
Activities… Somewhere else!
By that, I’m trying to point out, once again, the problem that guys tend to encounter when they go out with a girl for coffee or dinner in a restaurant. As a matter of fact, that kind of meeting places emphasis on your conversational skills.
If you are NOT good with words, as they say, you’ll screw up your chances of seeing your little sweetheart turn into your girlfriend (did someone say get laid?)
So take her to a stimulating environment where conversation is not your one and only way of seducing her … Because in a cafe, you get the impression you’re at a job interview, and as you all know, that’s not seductive at all.
Focus on positive emotions…!
Girls are very sensual and wonderfully sensitive creatures. They love the feeling of well-being and joy (Don’t you?)
In short, they love anything that is emotional!
Take her to see a show by a talented stand-up comedian, for example… make sure that she has a good time laughing with you … and as we saw above, your sweetheart will automatically associate these moments of compulsive laughter and fun… with you!
When she goes back home to tell her best friend/enemy all about the date, she’ll say, without knowing it:
“Woo! We laughed a lot!”
Congratulations, you’re now a talented stand-up comedian
Invite her to your world
Your date should take place on your own territory (not necessarily on your bed, you’re not quite there … yet!) You should either invite her to do something that you’ve really mastered, or to go to a place where you know a lot of people!
By bringing her into YOUR world, YOU create the situation. YOU impose YOUR rules. You are DOMINATING. You are, by definition: the Dominant Alpha Male!
Never agree to go out, especially for the first time, with a girl who invites you to a gathering with her friends, you’ll be lost like an atom in a jungle (hey, I hope you enjoy the expression I just invented, class!)
Go to several different places
In order to speed things up and optimize your seduction strategy, you should know that taking your sweetheart out to several places on the same day can actually have an impact on the subconscious of your little princess… She will have a strange feeling of knowing you better, and sometimes, she’ll even think you’re already a couple (I hope she’s not desperate, all the same).
A date where you do a little shopping at the corner mall, share a hot dog, take a trip to a bookstore or video store to rent DVDs (who said porn?), then go to a jazz concert, is the kind of experience that will make a girl think of you as a good friend she’s known for a really long time, so she’ll trust you more. Especially if the date goes really well!
Think about the logistics of the date
Don’t have your date in a forgotten corner of the city. If the young lady doesn’t have a vehicle, make sure that the location of your meeting doesn’t create transportation problems for her…
As a general rule, try to set up activities near where you live, and arrange it so that she makes a brief stop at your place WITHOUT staying there too long!
In fact, you can tell her to come over to your place, BUT insist that you’re NOT staying… just long enough to put on your shoes.
Well, when the lady drops in at your place, as I explained in a series of articles on the psychology of influence, it will make it much easier to invite her over for a great little DVD night, the next time.
So you live with mom and dad? Ah well, skip that part!
Some good plans
- Stand-up show
- Salsa lessons
- Art Exhibit
- Sporting Events
- Rent bicycles
- Etc… Etc. …
In addition to the fact that you have to leave to go on this date, JUST to have a GOOD time with a girl who might possibly interest you later, do NOT go out with a girl if you’re in a bad mood, tired, stressed with exams/work, or sick…
Make sure to go out with a girl when you’re in fine form and GOOD spirits. Go out when you’re positive and full of energy!!!!
And never forget that the seduction artist is … You!