On waking up this morning, I put on my radio as a habitual reflex.
A song that I particularly like, was on the air… Shadow of the Day – Linkin Park.
I suggest you to listen to it while reading this article to dive deep into the insight that I will share with you.
My favorite verse of this song, also being the subject of this article is when the singer says “Sometimes Goodbye is the only way” with a lot of emotion and unbelievable sensitivity.
Some hours before the beginning of the year 2010, this song took me through a little trip back in time – I thought of all the major events that I witnessed and that influenced me in the year 2009.
I will begin with my adventure in… Poland.
To make it simple, let me just say that I had the best 6 months of my life there.
Poland was a FANTASTIC adventure for me. I met a lot of people from different nationalities and cultures. I discovered so many new experiences , and above all, I opened myself to new horizons in a period of a couple of weeks while having a lot of fun.
I was elated!
I succeeded in building a strong LifeStyle – something that naturally facilitated my life in this beautiful country, which at first I considered to be a poor one, where people were always drunk (who said Vodka?)
Days, weeks and months flew by….finally, it was the moment for me to return.
If you have been following the articles under the category “My Seduction Story”…you must be well aware that at the time, I was going out with Iza’ and, admittedly she made my stay in Poland even more beautiful and interesting.
We were together for almost two months, and I did not know how to end it on a good note because as I mentioned above…..my internship in Warsaw came to its end and it was time to pack my bags.
She tried very hard to convince me to stay a little bit longer, to try and find a way to continue to be together, to work out the long-distance relationship……but I didn’t see things in this angle.
In effect, and to come back to the title of our song – Sometimes Goodbye is the only way
I decided to challenge all the voices that spoke to me from the inside, all my friends that repeated to me that we do not find a model to go out with everyday…..but, I forced myself to make a LOGICAL decision.
I admit that involuntarily I too was looking for a solution…but thanks to my modest experience, I applied the famous “Sometimes Goodbye is the only way”
I invited her to a romantic dinner (no, but don’t I have the right to play a bit like Bob?)and we spent a good, last moment together….because my decision was irrevocable, I could not go back on my word. She understood, and accepted this rational decision.
We left each other…smile on our lips, joy from the inside…and beautiful memories as a bonus!
If you have problems in your relationship….if your girlfriend has dumped you or vice versa, it is not necessary for me to tell you that it is stupid and fooling to complain and whine about your fate.
If things don’t work like they used to in the beginning with your partner, if you have exhausted all possible solutions, if there is nothing left to do….Think of this phrase which has a magical effect, and read it profoundly…
Sometimes, goodbye is the only solution
What do you feel? What does this phrase teach you?
Certainly, putting an end to a relationship is not easy. But when you are convinced, and royally sure of the arguments you put forward, the best solution is to move on, move forward.
This also applies to the case when you want your ex back….The best solution, combined in a framework of personal development is to forget, turn over a new page and make peace with it and yourself…..and then my friends, you will rise like a phoenix from the ashes.
Amongst the events that touched me deeply during the year 2009….one was when :
I lost two great friends.
The first was a Brazilian dude I met in Poland. We were inseparable. We worked together. We lived on the same path. We partied together…We picked up women together :D
Unfortunately, something happened that completely destroyed our friendship, that was rather solid.
During a party, he completely fell for this chick, who with all modesty, fell for me.
After a few weeks, he sees that on we are friends on Facebook and that we talk quite often. One day, full of hatred and anger, he sends me a cruel and hurtful message abusing me and accusing me of cheating.
I explained to him, that it was the girl who was flirting with me, that she made moves on me during the first party itself….he refused to digest that…. things went a little far, when he told everyone about this story, and trying to ruin my reputation in our social circle.
He was a friend I really counted on, someone I considered a BROTHER. But he fucked up a bit too much….in spite of efforts from my side to reconcile with him, he did not follow up.
Again, I had to apply the famous “Sometimes Goodbye is the only way”
Goodbye my friend! I wish you a lot of success and happiness in this life.
This was the last phrase I told my friend, a little off base (someone who takes the trouble of arguing with his friend over a girl, is certainly someone whose mental capacities and whose notions of social dynamics are outdated and obsolete)
On the other bank of the river…
Lily and me, decided to end our friendship that lasted a good 5 years.
Without giving you too many details…I stated that the arguments she put forward were totally baseless, and in other terms….it was “nothing substantial”
Quarrels between friends happen frequently, it is normal. It is not always mean. But, complicating things, aggravating problems to make them appear Hollywood style, to put up a big show….is unacceptable!
She asked me to give her time to start from scratch, I agreed to this mature and logical decision. It is what I did when….
A few weeks later, she asked me to delete all our photos on Facebook, to remove all traces that we were once friends…and she removed me from her list, too.
Again there, I did not want to complicate things. To move forward, and forget everything seemed like the best solution.
The friendship is gone.
If you have friends that fuck around too much with you, that waste too much of your time, break your head with a bunch of crap…NEVER hesitate to move on.
Do not allow them to come in the way of your career and personal development….it is a pure waste…and it would be stupid to stop on such a good path. True or False?
Seducing THAT girl…
In other developments, the solution of moving on to other things can be applied to many situations, especially when you are trying to seduce a girl that is playing Hard To Get (a bit too much)
Something a lot of guys do not understand is that: WE CANNOT SEDUCE ALL THE WOMEN.
To cling on to a girl that you judge to be magnificent and exceptional, employing an arsenal of seducing techniques and to self-torture YOURSELF…is just PATHETIC.
I do not stop repeating that sometimes it suffices to be intelligent to seduce. Why do you concentrate on ONE girl (that everyone wants) and wasting your time and energy…when you could be doing so many more interesting things, elsewhere?
Do not be soft : KNOW, ANTICIPATE AND MOVE ON TO OTHER THINGS AS SOON AS POSSIBLE.
The last word…
This magnificent song by Linkin Park pushed me to share with you this insight that is close to my heart for quite a long time. The essential you must keep remember is that sometimes, the act of searching for solutions to problems could result in a big waste of time, and a real tipping and capsizing of your personal development.
Never forget – Sometimes Goodbye is the only way.