The Seduction communities started appearing at the beginning of the 90s. This was a great contribution to humanity – several men tasted the pleasures of success, not only with women, but with daily life (and with their careers) I was part of that community. So I want to share with you, through my modest experience, the concepts that helped me reach my goals, set myself free, and live the life of my dreams, with the woman of my dreams.
But be careful…
I’m not going to share with you pick up lines, persuasion or manipulation tricks… this shit is a thing of the past, and may have been useful in the Middle Ages…
But I will share with you, I repeat, practical concepts that are rather based on YOUR personality and related to personal development.
Rule number 1…
Seduction is a… fun game!
Unless you are some kind of Superman with a magic potion (that sounds more like the Smurfs, right), you can never seduce a woman just like that! Moreover, if you’ve read my latest article on how to seduce a woman in less than 3 mn, you’ve probably understood, at least I hope you did, that it’s all about a question of making a “good first impression”, and not about using TRUE seduction techniques.
Whether you like it or not, seduction requires a series of steps which, naturally, need time.
To reach your final goal (get her phone number, ask her out on a date, sleep with her etc.) you should follow each step, but most importantly, you SHOULD enjoy EACH step during your seduction process.
If you live in New York City, and are heading to Florida by car, you’re not going to wait until you arrive in Florida to start having fun! It would be a cruel waste of time, and it would be very stupid.
At the very moment you hit the engine, your trip has officially start, and you should therefore START to prepare to enjoy the rest of your trip. Once you arrive in Florida, things will be even more intense and FUN! So why kill that pleasure until you reach THE big pleasure?
The same principle applies to seduction.
When you talk to a woman, you SHOULD, first of all, try to have fun and enjoy, and leave seduction for later (especially hitting on her).
You don’t need to wait until the last step (your goal being previously set) to finally celebrate your victory: each moment you spend with that woman (which interests you!) is a UNIQUE occasion to have fun and have a good time! So have fun!
It is all about . . . Lifestyle !
I know many people who have the wrong idea of what lifestyle really is. For such people, having a lifestyle of their dreams means:
- Driving a Porsche Magnum in the morning and a Ferrari at night
- Having bank accounts in Switzerland; and
- Owning a castle near a beach in Mallorca
These same people believe that once they can start living this dream lifestyle, they will finally be able to meet the woman of their dreams!
But there’s a slight problem here…
Do you really think that driving a Ferrari, having bank accounts in Switzerland and owning castles is easy?
Well unless you become a Mexican dealer or you win the lottery, you should wait at least 20 years, perhaps more, and work like a mad man non-stop (and also save money for 20 years) and in the best-case scenario, you will get the Ferrari (and a second-hand Ferrari!).
So plan 40 years before you can get other elements of this lifestyle…
As a result, you should wait 60 years before you meet the woman of your dreams.
This isn’t great news, or is it?
The first thing you should do to avoid this disaster scenario, is simply, to change the perception of your lifestyle.
Here the big secret that I’ll share with you . . .
To go out with the woman of your dreams, you should also LIVE the life of your dreams!
But ladies and gentlemen, it’s not the Ferrari or castle that will enable you to live this life of your dreams, but YOURSELF!
To meet (and seduce) the woman of your dreams, you should first start by forgetting the idea of a woman of your dreams. Focus on YOUR life and try to improve it everyday, to embellish it, by making your passions, your goals and focus areas YOUR priorities in life, and NOT women.
Because your life, should never EVER revolve around women, especially the women of your dreams!
Going back to the first point that I mentioned, I remind you that you should have fun and take advantage of life, each time you have the opportunity to do so! Forget about the woman of your dreams, live YOUR dream life and enjoy yourselves!
You will never, ever… give up
Entering the seduction world does not mean entering the… reading world!
With the Internet generation, you have tons of seduction sites, and an army of coaches. .. However, an ENORMOUS quantity of information is available, or rather, mis-information that remains, unfortunately, the number 1 frustration reason for many people who learn how to seduce women, start seducing women and end up going to where they started out: desperate men.
This brings us to a very important point…
If you don’t go out to see the real world and apply what you just learned, not only will your life be more complicated, you will also destroy the self-development process that you launched, the first day you decided to start this beautiful journey.
When you will go out to the “field”, you will start off by being rejected again and again… some girls will even try to hurt you. Some people will try to make fun of you. People will prevent you from doing what you want to do. But more importantly, people will stop you from improving and enjoying yourselves.
Your close friends will be the first ones to act like that.
I’ve been through that very same experience…
When I start working on improving myself (thus changing), several friends of mine did not accept this “new me”. I was a shy person, and up until that point I had always heard that in order to seduce women, you should be yourself. I had to remain a shy person.
The problem is that women, don’t give a damn about shy people. I was always the little sweetheart in the care bears world! And I never managed to seduce those girls I was interested in, while remaining shy.
And people kept telling me that I should keep being myself.
All I want to say is that the rejections that you will accumulate, and the stupid remarks that people will make, should never stop you from pursuing your self-development.
You should accept rejections and make them be part of your experience. Listen to your friend’s remarks, put them aside and come back later to check on them (when you will have reached your goals)
In fact, no one has the right to prevent you from improving. If you set goals (concrete goals, I hope) focus on reaching them and put aside all the things that may distract you from reaching them. We don’t get to live 36 lives, but we only live ONE life! So let’s enjoy every day we experience, every moment we live and let’s have fun with every woman we try to seduce!