Ah, oral sex – some women love it, others don’t see the point, and the rest are clearly not into it. But great oral sex can send a woman to 7th heaven, to say the least.
For women, cunnilingus is the equivalent of a blowjob for men. Ah, I knew you’d understand when I put it that way.
But the thing is, you have to know how to do it right, because it’s not just about using your tongue and waiting until the lady in question comes. I’m going to explain how to give amazing, mind-blowing oral sex that will make your girlfriend go completely crazy. Your girl will thank you and ask for it again and again.
So, are you ready to become a master at cunnilingus? Let’s get started!
Why do women love oral sex?
For one thing, there’s something selfish about getting oral sex, and letting go in the intense pleasure that comes from it. But it’s actually not selfish at all, because most of the time men love giving their girl oral sex, so it’s pleasurable for both partners.
Another thing that women love about oral sex is the aspect of extreme intimacy and sensuality to be found in the mouth, lips, and tongue of her man, at once hot and wet, fluctuating between sweetness and strength.
Lastly, there’s a psychological aspect that adds to cunnilingus’s appeal: A play of submission (of the woman) and domination (of the man) where each partner takes a mad pleasure in submitting and dominating each other.
My friend, take a good look at your girl’s facial expression and muscle contractions when your head slowly approaches the area between her legs.
Be patient and pay attention to rhythm
As a general rule, a woman needs more time to reach orgasm than a man. This rule applies to oral sex, too, so keep that in mind. Be patient and keep a good sense of rhythm when you decide to go down on your girl.
It’s true that some girls can come faster than others; it all depends on how sensitive their bodies are. Regardless, it always takes longer than making a man come from a blowjob.
As I mentioned at the beginning of this article, you shouldn’t just perform a tongue ballet until your girl comes. You need to make different movements with your tongue and your mouth, while using your hands and fingers on other parts of her body, as well. Always be focused on and receptive to her movements, muscle contractions, and breathing.
She may even say something to you like ‘Oh yes, like that, keep going, don’t stop!’ When she says this, make a note of what you’re doing and remember it so that you can do it to her again the next time and make her pleasure last longer.
Another essential detail: Your girl absolutely has to be comfortable and relaxed when you go down on her. She has to be able to completely let go and not be embarrassed. She has to feel comfortable with herself and with you.
Cunnilingus is a very intimate act that can intimidate some women, especially if it’s the first time you’re doing it to her, so do your best to reassure her and put her at ease.
Go for the clitoris, but don’t forget other areas
It’s true that the clitoris is a source of intense pleasure for women, but that’s not the only place that can make her go wild, so don’t spend all of your time licking or sucking on just that area. Do spend time there, of course, but not only there.
Start off and stay patient when you head between your girlfriend’s legs. Don’t rush in like a sex-obsessed dude just trying to get off. Remember that women don’t like it when a man makes a beeline to her clitoris when there are so many other erogenous zones that can and should be stimulated before you head to Mr. Clit.
Take time to explore her body and the places that make her feel good, like the inner and outer labia, the area between her anus and vagina, the insides of her thighs, and so on. Explore, test, and savor.
Yes, the clitoris is the most sensitive place on the female body but that’s not the only sensitive place. Stimulate other erogenous zones before getting down to business there.
Besides, going directly for the clitoris isn’t going to make your girl come faster. Far from it!
If you haven’t yet had the pleasure of discovering the famous clitoris, don’t worry, it’s very easy to find. The clitoris is the little ‘button’ located in the hollow between the labia. You have to slightly part them to locate it. This ‘button’ is extremely sensitive and more rigid than the labia. You’ll be able to feel it under your fingers but be very gentle because the clitoris is extremely fragile.
Okay, so how do I give great oral sex?
Each woman has her preferences and is more or less a fan of certain techniques, but even so, I’m going to give you my advice for giving great oral sex. With practice and experience, you’ll learn how to adapt it to your partner’s particular tastes.
Remember: test, experiment, and be open to your girlfriend’s reactions.
Now, it’s true that cunnilingus is something you do with your mouth, but don’t stop there. Use your hands and fingers, as well, and give her kisses and caresses. This is essential for giving your girl amazing oral sex.
Here’s a practical list to help you give great oral sex:
• Don’t just stick to the clitoris, change it up by stimulating other erogenous zones that are nearby, as well as farther away. Use your tongue and mouth but also give caresses and use your hands, fingers, etc.
• Use your gaze to heat things up. Some girls won’t always be at ease with meeting your eyes during intimate moments like oral sex, but give it a shot and see if she’s open to it. Don’t spend all your time looking at her – just shoot her some desire-filled looks from time to time, to add a little spice to your cunnilingus.
• Use your tongue in different ways. Lick her in every direction: from top to bottom, bottom to top, right to left, left to right, in a circle, in a zigzag, long, drawn-out licks on the surface of her pussy, shorter licks, etc.
• Use your tongue, of course, but not just that. Make good use of your fingers, hands, lips, and mouth, too. While you’re licking your girl, stop and kiss her pussy from time to time, remember to inhale and suck carefully on her clitoris and not constantly. While you lick her, penetrate her with one or two fingers to make her go even wilder.
• Be very careful with your teeth! Never bite her clitoris, but you can gently nip the inside of her thighs, close to her pussy, for example.
• Be patient and don’t desperately try to make her come quickly. Enjoy these moments of sharing and intense pleasure with your partner.
• Pay close attention to your girl’s reactions to the rhythm and techniques you’re using. Adapt your rhythm, movements, strength, gentleness, and speed to bring her to orgasm without feeling rushed. If you feel she’s about to come, prolong the pleasure by slowing down and waiting a little before making her burst with joy.
What’s the best position for giving oral sex?
Above all, a woman has to feel at ease and be comfortably positioned in order to get the most out of oral sex, and, most importantly, to more easily let go. The same thing goes for you, my friend. Find a position that makes you comfortable so that you can give your girl amazing oral sex.
You can opt for a 69 or do this:
The woman lies on her back, completely relaxed. Her legs are lifted and folded towards her, with each of her arms under a leg for support. In this position, her pussy is extremely exposed and available to your mouth. As for you, you can settle in at the edge of the bed, with your knees on the floor, or on your stomach.
In this position, your girl might tend to relax her legs but don’t hesitate to remind her to keep that position so that her orgasm will be even more intense. If she’s not comfortable like that, don’t force her to do it and let her spread her legs the way she wants to. Adapt yourselves with what works for each other.
And how will you know when she orgasms?
Trust me, my friend, you’ll know when she’s about to come. Your sweetie won’t fail to let you feel she’s going to orgasm – she might even tell you. Whatever the case, don’t put pressure on yourself, just enjoy going down on her. Take pleasure in giving her pleasure and you’ll see that everything will go smoothly and naturally.
When she comes, don’t stop what you’re doing – continue, and keep the same rhythm. You’ll sense your girl’s signals to slow down then stop. Then it’s up to you both to see if you do it again right away or wait a while, but remember that after orgasming, a woman’s clitoris and vagina can be overly sensitive, so you’ll have to see how she feels. Focus instead on other parts of her body or maybe she’ll want to reverse roles. Whatever happens, don’t abruptly stop oral sex – remain gentle and committed to giving your girl pleasure.
Oral sex and hair removal
Each girl has her preferences when it comes to the hair on her pussy. When it comes to oral sex, the ideal is for the labia to be completely hairless and to only have hair on the pubis. Without hair in the way, she’ll be much more sensible and receptive to your licks, kisses, and caresses. It will also be more pleasant for you to be in direct contact with her soft and delicate skin.
Whether or not she keeps hair on her pubis, is for her to decide, as long as her labia are clear for her pleasure and yours as well. Now, go give some great oral sex, my friend!