Following our readers demands, we will be talking about personal development, dedicated specially to those beginners in the field, but which can also serve as a reminder to those with the most experience.
What is Personal Development?
Self-development is when you become self-conscious and question yourself on a regular and perpetual basis, because you can’t stop improving. This could result from a failure (even though I don’t like this word) in your professional life, love life, social life… a sort of call that will be beneficial and will push you to see what goes wrong, look for the problems, identify them and try to find solutions to solve them.
Life is the most precious thing in the world and people are happy to exist
How many people do you think live this vicious circle of routine, just like cattle, and their lives can be summarized to eating, sleeping and for the luckiest ones making love.
They find their lives boring but don’t do anything to improve them. This is a normal thing because they don’t question themselves. Usually they are people who always claim their innocence and throw their own faults on others, and these people never improve. Therefore, the poor AFC (average frustrated champ) hates all the women in the world, the world’s unemployed people and the world’s employed people…
And because you’re lucky, you think properly, maybe you’ve ended up asking yourself pertinent questions that make you move forward.
A balanced professional life, spiritual life and love life, with a little humor, exciting things, uninterrupted novelties, interesting encounters, are a luxury for some people who think they’ve reached the top but haven’t really..
The basics of self-development
Self confidence & energy levels
This is one of the basic factor for each persons inner game, especially for those who no longer trust themselves, those who believe they don’t stand a chance to improve themselves, and it is a belief that one should acquire in order to hope that, one day, they can mark their stay on earth. The same goes for the energy level which should be adapted to their environment. Oddly enough shy people always do the opposite: they have no self-confidence, and they have very low or non-existent energy levels.
A famous lecturer starts his seminar by holding a 50 Dollar bill high.
He asks people:
“ Who would like this 50 Dollar bill? ”. Then hands start being raised, so he says
“I will give this 50 dollar bill to one of you but let me do something with it first.” He folds the bill and wraps it in his hand and says: “Do you still want this 50 Dollar bill?”
Students continue to raise their hands.
“Well OK but what would happen if I did this?”
He throws the bill on the floor and jumps on it, stepping on the bill as much as he can, and covers it with dust from the floor.
He then asks:
“ Who would still like this 50 Dollar bill? ”
“My dear friends, you have just learned a lesson… no matter what I do with this 50 Dollar bill, you will still want it, because its value has not changed, it is still worth 50 Dollars”
He then says:
“So think about yourselves, about your life. You will get folded and wrapped, rejected and hurt by people and events. You will feel like you’re worth nothing, but the truth is, you value will not have changed to society’s eyes and to the eyes of people who like you! “
A person’s value is not based on what that person did or was not able to do. You can always start all over again and try to reach your goals because your intrinsic value will remain intact.
Start packing. You are going to go on a journey where you will discover who you are.
Who am I?
This is one of the existential questions that many did not –want- to find. You are not what people say you are, you are what you want to show other people. Forget trying to identify yourselves through what other people say. If a person is dignified enough to answer this question, it would be you and not anyone else. Since the only acts that count for you are those that you accomplish, which push you to an uncomfortable zone and getting you out of your comfortable bubble?
Living for yourself
Don’t try to get other people’s approval through your acts because that’s a sign of insecurity. It show lack of self-confidence and is not attractive. If you buy clothes normally, it’s because you like that and not because you want to please other people (I’m not saying that you should not care about your image, I’m just saying that some fashion victims correspond to these people in search for approval), you have to understand that no matter what, people will criticize you for being jealous or for any other reason. If you accept their remarks, it means that you accept your boring and clustered life.
Try new things; fill your days with passion, discovery, love, and friendship, professional relations that will boost your life, your charm, your charisma and many other things that you will discover all by yourselves. You should have interesting lives and be aware of evolutions that will always give you pleasure.