The community effect normalizes people
The notion of group is an archaic notion. It stemmed from a primary and unreasonable need which consisted in saying that we should feel that we exist to other people’s eyes. This feeling has never been stronger, and today more than ever. This can sound weird, because our society claims that we are an individualistic society. The huge mass movement of which we are part on a daily basis which shows people changing exponentially with rising populations and the increasing possibilities to exchange things with other people. Virtual communities are another representation of this novelty. The advent of the internet has allowed many users to unite around topics they’re passionate about, regardless of differences and geographical distance.
The group
Groups are scary, by their number, strength and most importantly by their potential, but they are also reassuring. If a person is accepted in a group and becomes a member of that group, it follows implicit and explicit conventions of that group, and will see its behavior and choices go through approval of other group members.
This approval will not only legitimize their actions and thoughts, but also their entire existence. The image that will be sent of it will be one that was often researched before being found. It will serve like the picture of someone who just disappeared, a superficial and incomplete model which will enable to bring closer the interior and the things that they wanted to bring together, which will enable, in sum, the accomplishment of their lives’ most important goals.
Indeed, what are we apart from the image that we send back to ourselves? In addition to finding ourselves, this person who is at the heart of its group will quickly find a family, friends, and perhaps the twin, the perfect being, the Platonic soul mate of which it has been dreaming since childhood. And if the group does not correspond to one’s expectations, nothing prevents that person from leaving it and joining another one, which is more satisfying.
Moreover, the community will enable any web citizen to (finally) want what it has been looking for: recognition. This person may have been misunderstood, abandoned by others, and may be respected in a hierarchic structure. All he has to do is respect the group’s thoughts. If we look at this from a transactional analysis point of view, a member will go from the status of a child to an adult status, then to a father’s status. His knowledge will increase towards the area which connects him to other community members.
Unfortunately, rather quickly, his thoughts will start becoming standard thoughts, and if he wants to climb his hierarchy, he will have to give up his freedom of speech (and thought?). Because people who don’t think like the group tends to misunderstand women, because some amateurs have low self-confidence, and because knowledge itself is a scary thing, they hide behind social acceptance and criticize without a lot of aggressively the differences those they don’t dare to assume because they feel hurt. Since the beginning of times, men have tended to think in terms of hierarchy, and have always wanted to climb that hierarchy and go to the top.
While in the area of discipline that we’re interested in, as in many cases, the differences are horizontal rather than vertical. This is why no one should feel hurt, and this group of individuals smothers the lower group rather than helping them advance.
Different approaches to seduction “conventional artists”.
If you wish to be successful with women, you should understand how they work. You should admit this as fact, women don’t work the same way you do. They don’t think like you do. They don’t act like you do. Women look for a UNIQUE man, a leader.
If you’re stuck within a group, if you pay a high price for social acceptance, you will not be attractive. I meet a lot of people who discovered the idea of attractiveness. They wear Lanvin Sneakers, Dior jeans, Smalto jackets… They may dress well. But in order to be accepted by any community that thinks it has authority in terms of style, they should adopt strong rigidity and a very developed sense of ridiculousness. Of course, it is a group with a certain “standing” which is demanded, it is not the main purpose of the group, to remain very dynamic. It’s just a fact, the group becomes normal.
It is even the strongest defenders of this normal behavior that demand it and integrate it. The members of this group do not accept differences and will start thinking and behaving like some members who already climbed the social ladder, after years of experience.
Our community, your freedom
Communities that are grouped around the theme of seduction usually have the same punch lines. They are hierarchic members grouped around a specific theme. In that case, what’s the difference? You should see the difference in our norms. Let’s just say that passion and women unite us, and that our goal is to help you develop your seduction power.
The difference between the member of a community which is united around topic X (clothes, tuning or any form of masturbation) and a community of seducers may sound very small and insignificant, so much so that it’s not worth joining. Truth is, it is huge. The topic gives community members the ability to become more tolerant, more open-minded… and cultivate some particular aspects. A community of members where all members are like that is THE ideal community.
Given the hidden nature (not so hidden) of men, I don’t know if such a community can exist. But the reality of our community does correspond to this ideal. In a world where some people interpret this open mindedness and generosity as a weakness, the temptation can be strong to look arrogant and despising. It’s not easy to realize that great men don’t need to hide their fears from other people (which brings them back to their own fears) hiding behind a snobbish attitude, fake distances and arrogance. The richest people that I’ve met, whether they’re famous or not, whatever number of zeros they may have in their bank accounts, share a common value. Generosity is not about sharing money with other people, as you may have understood. Generosity is about the human meaning of the word. Whether you’re famous or not, rich or not, you can do great things. You have a story, your story. You have character, your character. You also have your strengths and weaknesses, and you should use them. But if you wish, you can also change. But don’t change so that Jack or Nick may like you more.
Develop your character to reach YOUR goals, follow YOUR interior drive, we call this being IN. It is possible, whatever your age may be, your gender may be, you’re your current situation may be. Will power can be a very strong thing, and men have will power. Just keep one thing in mind: a virtual life, or a snobbish attitude or despising other people will not get you anywhere. The most you can get from such attitudes is the idea of seeing free men look like inferior men.
Start today by walking with an open heart and smile to those who reject your originality. That person, who may sound like he lives in a prison cell and his curses, may sound like a distant thing. The world will be yours. Look around yourself. People surrounding you are rich, passionate and open. Look to your left and shake hands with people. Find a woman who loves you for who you are. Be alive, and get this party started….
SBK TEAM.